Why Do Men Need to Know?

I’m not going to argue that being sexually compatible isn’t an important part of any successful relationship. But I don’t understand why men need to know that immediately.  “Hi. How are you? I’m Ben. Are you good in bed?” First off, if we slept with men on the first date, we’d never hear from them again, regardless of how good it is. So why do we need to let them know immediately if we’re compatible or not?

A few years ago, I’d gone on a few pathetic dates with a guy we called “Urckle” cause he looked like Steve Urckle. There was nothing standout about the guy, but nothing that totally wanted to make me barf. So I went on 3 or 4 dates with him. During the last one, he’d gotten completely wasted at a friends party (who lived upstairs from me), so I’d offered him my couch to sleep on. I was hoping that after he left, I’d never hear from him again.

Of course not. He pinged me on msn messenger later that day, and asked what I was like in bed. He said he didn’t want to waste his time with me if I was a prude. That was the last sentence he ever spoke to me.

Browsing through my very disappointing eHarmony matches this evening, I was reading Joel from Toronto’s “Must Haves and Can’t Stands” (someday I’ll explain how eHarmony works…whenever I get my first crummy date). In there, he put “Sexually Knowledgeable”. I can understand how this would be important to someone…but you only tell that to women you expect to sleep with right off the bat.

Nice try guys, guess you’ll never know.